kierstyn

When Did Loving Yourself Become a Crime

Growing up we were taught that bragging about ourselves and our accomplishments was vain and inconsiderate. We were told that being proud of who we are and what we’ve done is okay, as long as we keep those thoughts to ourselves because sharing them only makes others feel bad. This then translated into us not being content with who we are as people because we felt like we couldn’t be. It forced us into a state of constant competition and trying to be better than the person sitting next to us without even speaking a word.

Over the course of the past 400ish days, I’ve been on a journey of self-discovery. Throughout my journey, I’ve found self-love and have learned to be proud of who I am and all that I’ve accomplished. During this time, I would express what I’ve learned with others, how I’ve come to terms with my strengths and weaknesses, often following the conversation with, “I’ve finally learned to love myself!” This is huge for me as I’ve struggled with confidence my whole life. What shocks me most, though, is that when I express this to others, they usually follow it with, “you’re pretty vain, eh.” Or something along the lines of, “you think so highly of yourself.” Sometimes all I get is a scoff or even a little chuckle.

In today’s day and age, depression and anxiety are at an all time high. Suggestions to *fix* this are to learn to love yourself but when you do, you get ridiculed anyway. Can someone please explain to me when loving yourself became a crime?

Some days I wake up and love everything about myself (almost) but then other days I don’t. Either way, if I’m proud of myself, why do people have to make me feel like I shouldn’t be?

I get it. It all comes down to jealousy and jealousy is a dangerous emotion. But encouraging others to be proud of themselves is one thing, letting them be is another. Don’t preach loving yourself and then sit there and judge people when they do.

There are two things I want you to learn from this blog post:

  1. If you judge someone for loving themselves and being proud of who they are, take a step back and ask yourself why you are judging them. Get to that root cause. It’s most likely an internal struggle you are dealing with and is a reflection of how you truly feel about yourself.
  2. If you’ve found self-love or have done something that makes you proud, SHOUT IT TO THE WORLD. Let everyone know how proud you are because odds are it will inspire others. Finding self-love is hard and it does come and go so when it’s there, embrace it in all of it’s glory. You deserve it.

The world spins round and round and as cliche as it sounds, life is way to short to sit in the shadows. They always talk about finding love in others and when you find that love, to never let it go. Instead, once you’ve found love in yourself, never let THAT go. That’s the love that will stick with you for life.

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